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“I think you use humor as a defensive mechanism.” “No shit? Well, that’s why you get my $30 copay.” Only half of that was actually said out loud, the other strongly thought.
I won’t take you through the whole origin story, but the part that’s significant to this particular tale is that I was the smart little fat kid that became a clown to keep from getting picked on, and to try and fit in somehow. It’s a whole lot more fun to get laughed with, than laughed at. This is not a new, or novel, tale and I didn’t use my version of it to go on to fame and fortune (well kinda, but that’s a different story).
I'm 60, so let’s call it 50 years, or more, that I’ve been playing the part. My auto-default-go to response to nearly any situation is a joke of some sort, literally have to be thinking hard not to. Sometimes it’s a gift you wouldn’t believe, a lot of times not. Who knew humor wasn’t the answer to everything? Beats the hell out of crying if you ask me, others have disagreed. A joke when your grampa died? Reading the room not always a strength either…watching a giant man break down in tears has a way of reminding you. This chronic condition has been diagnosed as "diarrhea of the mouth" by my medical team.
The funny isn’t always a shield. It can be deadly too. In this past medicated month of taking a squint at myself, I've agreed with what I’ve always known, jokes can cut with surgical results. I’ve dissected people, to their face, had them laughing along…and then the light comes on. Am I proud of this? I have been, sure, there’s been plenty of times someone needed to be taken down. There’s been other times when I’ve done it for sport. I’ve been the bully that I used the funny to hide from. Not my finest moments, and too many of them to even try to defend.
The thing about hiding behind a wall of any sort, even one that can bring the giggles, is sure…nothing bad gets to you, but YOU don’t get out either. Congratulations! You’ve built, staffed, and filled your very own solo-sized maximum security prison. All you’re allowed to be is the character you created, or at least that’s what I’ve always thought.
I love, and take pride in being (I hope) funny. The thing I’ve come to see, is that it’s ok not to be. I can, and should, deal with the world with more than a joke and a laugh. In my defense though, to paraphrase the bard, Waylon, "I've always been funny, but it's kept me from going insane"
Go ride a bike and have a laugh. Seriously.




